How the pressures of December holidays affect your relationships

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The December holidays can either have a positive or negative impact on relationships, especially when financial pressures and family stress are taken into account.

These burdens can quickly translate into detrimental consequences for couples who after the holiday, end up in counselling or, worse, in the divorce lawyers’ office. Statistics have shown that January is the busiest month for divorce lawyers for exactly this reason.

Relationship expert, Paula Quinsee says that both parties are equally accountable and responsible for keeping their relationship healthy but looking at local divorce rates, this is not the case.

“People get caught up in their own issues, work stresses, family pressure and sometimes inappropriate coping mechanisms, and partners become disconnected and drift apart. Most couples seek help when there is almost too much damage done but this doesn’t have to be the case.

January is a time for new beginnings, a chance to evaluate goals and set new ones with one’s significant other.

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Just as you would take your car in for its annual service, we should look to do the same with our relationships.”

Here are a few tips Quinsee provides for successful relationships in 2018:

1. Couple goals

These are goals couples come up with and agree upon together then spend the year working toward. It’s a useful way to communicate and clarify what each partner wants from the relationship, and a great way to ensure you’re on the same team and it creates some helpful focus for the year.

If you are still going strong after December, and you are both still open to exploring new ideas together, it can be a really good foundation for your relationship.

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2. Find a solution

All couples fight, but those with more serious issues tend to get stuck at the beginning of the year. Seeing no way out of their rut.

In that case, it’s best to seek outside help. But it doesn’t have to come in the form of counselling – it can be something like a personal growth programme or workshop that can help bring what’s important into focus and hone interpersonal skills that will come in handy both at home and in the workplace.

If you and your partner need marriage or relationship assistance, join Paula Quinsee at the Womenology Masterclass and The Mancave Mastermind Programme to develop your full potential, and improve your relationship with your partner and colleagues.

For bookings and more information visit here.


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Danielle Garrett
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